I am the worst at it! I don't have the balls to go up to somebody in a club and I never notice if people are flirting with me (which my friends tell me they are afterwards). so this pickle is not really letting me move 'forward' in my homosexual life. normally i'm such a confident person but when it comes to this i become quite insecure.
hey anon. well unfortunately this area is where the old cliche sayings actually apply - its all about confidence. At times I, personally, am exactly the same but one thing i've always reminded myself of is 'whats the worst that could happen?'. If you see a guy you like then talk to him. If he acts like a d1ck then he's so not worth it and if he's a nice guy then the worst that can happen is he'll say no and on the other hand u might get lucky :P.
Everyone has their own insecurities and hang ups about themselves and their bodies so trust me you're not alone in feeling this. Next time you see a guy you like just remind yourself that you're worth something and just start by making eye contact. if that don't work then hey, you tried and you can get back to having a good night with your mates.
In the end it's all about confidence and believing in yourself (as disney movie as that sounds). remind yourself that u are worth their attention and focus on good thoughts rather than negative ones.
Hopefully that helps if u have any more questions feel free to post again or private message me
good luck and stay safe xxxxxxx
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Clubs aren't the best place for meeting people, most of them are drunk or on drugs. Try going along to society events and talking to people there, the members are nice and they don't bite. Also check out Out to 25, its like a social, youth group thing, again a nice relaxed way of meeting people and getting to know them.
Mind you if all else fails just sign up to www.gaydarguys.com or www.fitlads.co.uk. They seem to work.
