i think having a checklist is really bad. when you are with someone you shouldn't be sat there mentally checking off some list in your head. why limit yourself?
quote: Originally posted by: indie_hunk "I So.... What is in your checklist that you check when you meet a potential date??"
Do they have:
a) bad BO? b) a proclivity to touch my breasts/arse within five minutes? c) a bottle of cheap Morrisov vodka with them? d) a 'vote Conservative' badge or similar political affilitations?
If not, then the pass the test. In fact, c) would as well, if s/he promised to share.
quote: Originally posted by: Arsecandle "i think having a checklist is really bad. when you are with someone you shouldn't be sat there mentally checking off some list in your head. why limit yourself?"
I think people have mental checklist because they know that they won't be able to get along with some people, or that they go against their principles. For example, I honestly don't think I can date shallow, materialistic, and or pretentious people. I really wouldn't want to date a guy whose brain will probably spill if the concept of "inner beauty" is presented. One may not necessarily agree with it, but at the end of the day, it is what you do that make you the happiest. And even if I don't make checklist, I wouldn't necessarily want to hang out with people that say somethin' in the line of: "What!? You don't have casual sex!? You don't know what you're missin'. That is soooo weird.. Oh by the by, I'm really upset today cuz my BF slept with my best friend."
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Not picky enuff... ermm bollocks 2 it, I jus take people as they r n if i like em i like em... sod havin standards, if u dun have that many u cant b dissappointed
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Your relaxed attitude to meeting people might make you lots of friends, but if you're not fussy at all you could end up with someone who doesn't truly interest you in the long run, or even treats you like a doormat"
hmmm...i would say this is bollocks, but it is actually correct about the making lots of friends and the doormat bit. The problem here is that the test is based on the assumption that pickiness is a POSITIVE quality, whereas i think it's just neutral like most other values (i said MOST, not all, lol). too much of anything is bad in my opinion.
hmm. maybe it's saying i'm not shallow enough, which is just peachy by me, but i also detect a hint of "you are going to be lonely FOREVER" in there....
god i had the worst night at MPV. the things i do for people...
me xxx
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I think people have mental checklist because they know that they won't be able to get along with some people, or that they go against their principles. For example, I honestly don't think I can date shallow, materialistic, and or pretentious people. I really wouldn't want to date a guy whose brain will probably spill if the concept of "inner beauty" is presented. One may not necessarily agree with it, but at the end of the day, it is what you do that make you the happiest. And even if I don't make checklist, I wouldn't necessarily want to hang out with people that say somethin' in the line of: "What!? You don't have casual sex!? You don't know what you're missin'. That is soooo weird.. Oh by the by, I'm really upset today cuz my BF slept with my best friend.""
I guess no matter what we all have a subconscious checklist. I try to keep an open mind because everyone has flaws but I still probably fail. The casual sex thing really bothers me, as do the types of people you listed. I think i told you the other week that I made the mistake of dating people like that and they made me feel bad about myself. I was talking to a friend the other day about how i think im weird because im not like 90% of people who go around having casual sex. I'm such a prude :p
Sash, we are both in the friends zone......FOREVER!
steve im pretty much the same...i was a slut last year but the casual sex thing really isn't me, or good for me, lol. hmmm, doomed to be the bridesmaid but never the bride i think...
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I think most people who don't do casual sex don't go to the gay places. That's why it's so hard to meet, but it's not 90% of people that are like that.
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im 35% picky, though the quiz is obviously ridiculous and id probably pick completely different answers on an other day... i think when people say they couldnt go out with someone if he/she was a certain thing are in most cases wrong, especially if its some kind of moral objection, principles go out the window when you really like someone, i mean, i dated a tory...
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gwm 20 - can take about an hour on the tower of power - as long as i gets a little golden shower.
The gay scene can be promiscuous, but I find there are different kinds of people there. Still have memories of this ugly guy at the door at Mission, asking me to go back to his place as I was leaving. Yikes!
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I'm unfortunate enough to have been chatted up by men in Mission. I still have memories of standing by the door, waiting for everyone else so I can leave, and being approached by a sleazy 40-something year-old man: "so, what's a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?"
quote: Originally posted by: ChipsAndLube "mission, a gay club? there's more factor G in the walkabout on the night following a BNP rally."
(!!) I love it. That place is nice but... small and overheated and kind of sleazy. What happened to it being a 'homo' hangout: the number of straight guys in there is insane.
yeah, i'll raid the armouries, steal their weapons & hide them, then we can draw lots 2c who's gotta use which medieval weapon 2 kill the breeders in mission. After last night at work - sum fat breeder bitch who looks like that "i have an army of naval officers livin in my hair" from smack the pony, decided 2 throw her half finished drink down me when i refused 2 serve her 4 been 2 pissed, then she sparked up at bar n wunt listen when she got told it wer no smokin at the bar, told me 2 **** off - I am more than up 4 puttin the idea in2 action
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