Recently my boyfriend and i seem to be arguing none stop he gets really pissed off if i try talikg to him when we are watching TV and he has started going on the internet alot which i didnt really care about untill the otherday i sat down next to him on the sofa to give him a cuddle. the second i did he shut down his msn messenger so i couldnt see who he was talking to or what about. I told him he didnt have to that i wasnt reading them and that I was just going to give him a cuddle. he then turned around and said i could see your eyes looking at the screen i stood up and walked out the room later he told me i have to try and chill out and stop stressing. None of this would bother me however he goes on about trust being the most important part of a relationship.
has anyone being through something similar and if so how did you sort it out
Just leave them 2 it, if sum1's gonna screw you about they r gonna do it regardless, plus expecting them 2 do the dirty n thinkin that they will is only gonna lead 2 them doing it more cos they know ur expecting them 2 anyhow so there's nowt 2 lose by doing it & if ur already acting suspicious around them they r gonna feel like they r been accused without good reason n think bugger it, go off n do it.
Options are; try and talk 2 them, get urself outta there or give them sum trust n let em get on wi it.
I've been on both sides of it. From my experience, worst thing sum1 can do is act like they don't trust ya n expect u 2 do it, cos its really annoying if u've done nowt & wont but are gettin hassle cos they think u will. Its more often than not the final push 2 do summat stupid like that, just 2 make all the hassle worth it.
You never know the talking on messenger might be to a mate about things that are bothering them about ur relationship & they may not be able to/want to talk 2 u bout it first... how often dya go 2 mates wi a personal problem that u need sum reassurance on b4 actin on it?
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ugh i hate men. look if hes saying trust is important then tell him that he has to trust that you respect his privacey. secondly if hes hiding things from you then you should remind him that trust can only exist when there are no secrets in a relationship. I found out my bf is hiding thing from me recently havent said anything yet but when i do you can bet there will be a hoo haa
agree with nic. just give them space. if hes so adamant about trust being a big part of a relationship then chances are dont think he would cheat (although that might just be me being naive). just give them some space and trust them. worst comes to worst if they are screwing u round the fact that u trust em anyway will make him feel like ****
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Sounds like its time to have a big chat, just letting him be, may not be the best idea at times like this. Get to the point and ask him, if he isnt cheating, you will have to apologise and say sorry for doubting him, but if he is at least you will know. Dont just sit about worrying about, be proactive.
Best to just give up with the idea that a boyfriend will actually care about you and therefore you should only use guys for great sex and never spend too much time with them to get too close. That's the way James Bond handles women, and he sure as hell knows how to do things properly. There are plenty of people who do care about you (friends), but as soon as sex comes into it it's best to say goodbye to that if you want to avoid misery and frustration. You often hear about the old 1960s & 70s style feminist women moaning about how awful men were. Well now we know why. Sorry about this cynical advice but as they say "a cynic is what an idealist calls a realist". Hmm, maybe I'm one of those awful men. Ah well.
ok... here's the deal. When people go on about trust that much, ie saying that you don't trust them, they usually have something to hide. The last guy that didn't trust me had someone else on the side. Because he was doing this, and breaking my trust, he was going through my email inbox every night to try and find an incriminating email. People who are doing bad things expect you to be and get paranoid that you know about them.
It's either that or you're both spending too much time together and need some space. If you're not living together what was he doing on msn when you were there anyway.. especially if he didn't want you to see!
Don't accuse... you'll find out in due course if something dodgey is going on... trust me!
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Ditzy_fck wrote: worst comes to worst if they are screwing u round the fact that u trust em anyway will make him feel like ****
thats true, its always bad n u feel evil, especially when u have 2 face up 2 it all n c wot a mess you've caused n how much u've hurt sum1.
its like havin parents tell u they r dissappointed in u rather than havin a go at u. Makes u feel really bad.
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Awww well glad your sorted now serious question does anybody out there need a new house/ flat mate or know of anyone whom needs a needs one because im in desperate need of accomodation and i need it asap x
yes in deed however my course is leacing me somewhat stressed out and in turn this is having a negative effect on my family and as i love my wife and our doggy i dont want to see our relationship go the same way as well britney and fedex
i bought the dog as his birthday present so would not dream of taking him away we have reached an amickable settlement in which I visit the dog every weekend and i have him every other xmas and boxing day.
we will be sitting jamie down tonight and tell him what is going on i will explain that it isnt that mummy and daddy dont love each other anymore its just we need some space and that it dosnt change how much we adore him.
we live in an attractive red-brick maison, conveniently situated in bosnia, 10 minutes' walk from uni. our landylady is mad as a shower of peanuts, the rent having remained at £52 /week for the last 3 years.
we enjoy afternoon tea, zooming in on rude bits in films and other things besides.
if you're interested, let me know asap. like i say, she's crackers, and my other two housemates are currently stressing about this abroad. we need an amiable 4th for co-habitation, drinking, mirth and more.
back on topic... give it a couple of months. he'll either turn into an arsehole or an angel.
dave x
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burn down our home, RAPE OUR DEAD MOUTHS. Just as long as I don't have to hear anymore of your disgusting babble
this the same mad bint who made u sign a contract saying if u lived there, u'd all have 2 eat dinner round the table at the same time like a little family?
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